Tag: schadenfreude

  • Happy Misfortune

    Why do some derive pleasure from some other’s misfortune, a strange joy often described as schadenfreude? The English version is epicaricacy. Now there’s a good word, suggesting epic caricature. A form of sadism, maybe. It’s not one of the seven deadly sins, though it could be related to wrath or envy. Or moral desert.

    Is it a weakness not to feel happy at a bad person’s misfortune? Is it impossible for a bad person to experience misfortune? Is misfortune a precursor to happiness? Can we even recognize true misfortune? What appears to be divine retribution may turn out to be a blessing in disguise. Likewise, do we know luck when we find it? Trina wins a lottery in Frank Norris’s novel “McTeague.” She ends up sleeping on the coins, literally, a bed of coins.

    The blessing in disguise is of course impossible to know. We can’t know what does not happen, only imagine it. But we’re good at imagining things. And our predispositions and assumptions often make no sense. We don’t believe in God, but we think people get what they deserve. We stick to the belief that good deeds are rewarded while bad acts get punished even as the headlines are proof of an alternative reality. Pride, greed, and envy are well-dressed floats in our celebration parades.

    We scan the headlines for signs of redress: the writer whose best seller is found to be plagiarized; the preacher who kept a mistress; the scholar who misspells, mispronounces, misses tenure; the sports hero hooked on drugs; the politician prosecuted. But the schadenfreude feelings these misfortunes stir up are no substitute for kindness and humility. What we seem really to be looking for is vengeance. But our code of disbelief has already struck down any possibility of such a judge.

    We are given then to randoms. We don’t know why things happen the way they do. And no event seems final. The so-called extinction of the dinosaurs is belied by the hummingbird and crocodile. I’ve been thinking of the dinosaurs recently, the ones we once thought now fill the gas tanks of our cars, but that’s a myth. Life doesn’t pass so much as alter – allegro non troppo: fast, but not so fast we can’t see or feel it go; and for the most part happy, though not permeating or permanently so. In any case, and as Slavoj Zizek points out in his segment of the Astra Taylor film “Examined Life,” the catastrophe of one species may be the good fortune of another.

    Is happy misfortune a universal truth, like the constant speed of light or theories of relativity? In the absence of proof of life elsewhere in the universe, is life on Earth a happy misfortune? Or is life elsewhere already over, ended, and not so happily? And would we feel a sense of schadenfreude to find out?

  • After the Rodeo

    One who behaves bears
    want and likes we hear
    called a good neighbor

    not so with old friends
    whose schisms gone
    seeded of bickernesses

    the aplomb the plums
    you ate so cool and self
    defining the sad clown

    you know well long
    after the greasepaint
    has worn to raw down

    and now we can laugh
    at the one who slipped
    and fell unexpectedly

    but it’s canned laughter
    the harmful joy
    of this rodeo

    where the cowboy
    limps away to lick
    his wounds

    in the trailer
    behind the tavern
    plays a country song:

    “I don’t know why
    I married you.
    I like you, but
    I don’t love you.

    It was just timing,
    really, and I still
    thought of you and
    your friends as boys,

    not men, the mean
    characters my mom
    went out with, and boys
    could take you away

    from the messiness of home
    at least for a little while –
    it wasn’t until later and
    too late I thought

    maybe I did love him
    but by then I found out
    it doesn’t take long
    for most boys to become

    men and now wonder
    how and who is going to
    take me away from
    this old song again?”